Attachment Relationships

  • Perceptions of Time

    “We all have the same amount of time, so feeling like we have all the time in the world is really about managing expectations. Some suffering, the kind we must learn to be good at, is inevitable. But other suffering… Continue reading

    Perceptions of Time
  • Spacious Lament

    I had to leave church in order to grieve and be a mess because my grief and mess seemed to make others uncomfortable. They didn’t know what to do with me. Some sadness might be allowed, but then it needed… Continue reading

    Spacious Lament
  • Prayer as a Way of Being in the World

    In The Awakened Heart, Gerald G. May writes, “I think most people have trouble with prayer because prayer is really an act of love, and therefore demands vulnerability. As with the love, the more we try to control prayer, the… Continue reading

    Prayer as a Way of Being in the World
  • Negotiating Neurodiversity for Mutual Satisfaction

    I’m a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). It’s a type of neurodiversity. It’s not an official psychological diagnosis yet like ADHD. But my husband has a mild version of ADHD and I mentally frame the needs of our brains and nervous… Continue reading

    Negotiating Neurodiversity for Mutual Satisfaction
  • The Pitfalls of “Christian Nice”

    I once knowingly got engaged to a man who had formerly slept with prostitutes. Writing those words and seeing them on the page now fills me with horror. What?! I can’t believe I did that. But at the time, I… Continue reading

    The Pitfalls of “Christian Nice”
  • It Is Not My Job to Form My Children

    “It is not your job to form your children.” My spiritual director spoke those words to me in the middle of our last session. They sank deep and far. I teared up and had to breathe deep. My eldest daughter… Continue reading

    It Is Not My Job to Form My Children
  • My Experience with Biblical Womanhood as Gospel Truth

    I recently read Sarah Bessey’s book, Jesus Feminist: An Invitation to Revisit the Bible’s View of Women. This book was published in 2013, so I’m about a decade behind in getting around to this one. I put it off for… Continue reading

    My Experience with Biblical Womanhood as Gospel Truth
  • Fair Play: A Self-Assessment and Evaluation of Labor Distribution in the Home

    Besides re-evaluating my work life, I’ve also been re-evaluating some things about my home life. In late January there was a week I was so out of sorts and dissatisfied and unsure about so many aspects of my life that… Continue reading

    Fair Play: A Self-Assessment and Evaluation of Labor Distribution in the Home