danielleklafter
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Jesus Doesn’t Fix Everything
At the root of asking, Why do bad things happen? is a much deeper, dangerous question: Does God love me? Personally, I think the challenge is to answer the second question without always getting a clear answer to the first.… Continue reading
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The Transformative Power of Doubt
Doubt is not a sign of weakness or something to be ashamed of. It’s not an omen of the death of your faith. It’s an invitation to open and trust. It’s an opportunity to acknowledge that you are part of… Continue reading
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The Flaws of Sacred Texts
I don’t believe in the infallibility of scripture anymore. Depending on who you are, I’m aware reading that statement may have just caused you an incredible amount of anxiety or defensiveness. That’s okay. I’d encourage you to take a deep… Continue reading
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Expectation vs. Hope
Expectations often work as demands, while hope is willing to suffer through the messiness of life and disappointments without giving up. Expectations clench things tightly in a fist, while hope holds hands open, willing to surrender. Continue reading
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Negotiating Neurodiversity for Mutual Satisfaction
I’m a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). It’s a type of neurodiversity. It’s not an official psychological diagnosis yet like ADHD. But my husband has a mild version of ADHD and I mentally frame the needs of our brains and nervous… Continue reading
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The Pitfalls of “Christian Nice”
I once knowingly got engaged to a man who had formerly slept with prostitutes. Writing those words and seeing them on the page now fills me with horror. What?! I can’t believe I did that. But at the time, I… Continue reading
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It Is Not My Job to Form My Children
“It is not your job to form your children.” My spiritual director spoke those words to me in the middle of our last session. They sank deep and far. I teared up and had to breathe deep. My eldest daughter… Continue reading
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Four Types of Soil: A New Look at an Old Parable
I’m not going to lie. I was tempted to skip this one. I’ve heard and read this story countless times. It’s extremely familiar. I wanted something new. Something more interesting. But I made myself stay in the reading and see… Continue reading
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My Experience with Biblical Womanhood as Gospel Truth
I recently read Sarah Bessey’s book, Jesus Feminist: An Invitation to Revisit the Bible’s View of Women. This book was published in 2013, so I’m about a decade behind in getting around to this one. I put it off for… Continue reading
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Stop “Shoulding” on Yourself: Why Do We Carry Shame over Morally Neutral Tasks?
If you’re honest you can probably fill in the following blank: I feel shame that ________ isn’t __________ (meeting some spoken or unspoken expectation). If you’re anything like me, you can fill in this blank a myriad of ways: Shame… Continue reading
Danielle Klafter 